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Seeing Beneath the Surface: The Quiet Power of Personal Authority

October brings a noticeable shift in the atmosphere. The days grow shorter, the light changes, and the natural world adjusts to a new season. It’s a fitting time to consider what we see, what we assume, and what we know to be true beneath the surface of our everyday experiences.

Traditionally, October has been associated with the thinning of the veils, a time when what is normally hidden becomes easier to perceive. Whether or not that symbolism resonates with you, there’s a practical interpretation worth exploring: Sometimes we need to look beyond appearances, expectations, and other people’s opinions to recognize what we already know.

And that brings us to something especially valuable at this stage of life and career: personal authority.

You’ve Earned the Right to Trust Yourself

Think about the experience you’ve accumulated over the years. You’ve navigated professional challenges, made difficult decisions, learned from mistakes, and discovered what works for you. You’ve likely developed a fairly sophisticated understanding of people, circumstances, and your own capabilities.

Yet even accomplished professionals sometimes find themselves second-guessing their instincts. We seek additional opinions, reconsider decisions we’ve already made, or feel compelled to explain choices that don’t require anyone else’s approval.

Consulting trusted colleagues and considering different perspectives are signs of sound judgment. But there’s a difference between gathering useful information and continually outsourcing confidence in our own decisions. Personal authority means recognizing that your experience, values, and judgment deserve a meaningful place at the decision-making table. In fact, when it comes to your own life, they deserve the leading role.

Look Beyond What’s Being Presented

One of the advantages of professional maturity is the ability to recognize that what’s visible isn’t always the whole story.

A seemingly attractive opportunity may carry expectations that conflict with your priorities. A colleague’s strong opinion may reflect their own concerns rather than an objective assessment of your situation. A long-standing professional obligation may continue simply because nobody has questioned whether it still makes sense. Seeing beneath the surface means being willing to examine these situations without automatically accepting the prevailing narrative.

It also means paying attention to your own responses. When something feels out of alignment, consider why. Perhaps you’ve noticed a pattern, recognized an inconsistency, or identified a concern that hasn’t yet been fully articulated.

Your instincts aren’t infallible, of course. They’re information, not unquestionable instructions. They do, however, deserve consideration alongside what’s directly observable. The goal isn’t to become suspicious or overly analytical. It’s to become more discerning about what you accept, what you question, and what you choose to do next.

Personal Authority Doesn’t Require a Big Outward Performance

There’s a misconception that standing in your personal authority requires making bold declarations, confronting everyone who disagrees with you, or demonstrating unwavering certainty. Sometimes personal authority looks like calmly declining an opportunity that isn’t right for you. Sometimes it’s choosing not to engage in a conversation that’s going nowhere. Other times, it’s listening respectfully to someone’s advice and deciding to take a different path.

You can be open-minded without being easily influenced. You can be collaborative without abandoning your standards. And you can acknowledge uncertainty without surrendering your ability to make a thoughtful decision.

For high-achieving women, especially those accustomed to being reliable, accommodating, and responsive to others, this can be an important distinction. You don’t need to defend every boundary or provide an elaborate explanation for every personal choice.

Your authority doesn’t depend on how convincingly you explain yourself. It grows through how consistently you honor what you know.

For Your Consideration:

As we move further into the final quarter of 2026, consider where you might benefit from exercising a little more personal authority.

  • Notice where you’re seeking unnecessary approval. Is there a decision you’ve already considered carefully but haven’t acted upon because you’re waiting for someone else’s endorsement?
  • Question an assumption. Is something in your professional or personal life continuing simply because it’s always been done that way?
  • Give your judgment some credit. Recall a time when you trusted yourself and made a decision that served you well. What did that experience teach you?
  • Choose one clear action. Identify a situation where you can honor your priorities without overexplaining, apologizing, or inviting unnecessary debate.

These don’t need to be dramatic changes. Often, the most meaningful shifts begin with a quiet decision to trust ourselves a little more.

As October unfolds, I invite you to pay attention to what becomes clearer when you look beneath the surface. Perhaps you’ll recognize that an old expectation no longer fits. Maybe you’ll discover that someone else’s urgency doesn’t need to become your responsibility. Or you might simply realize that you’ve accumulated more wisdom and good judgment than you’ve been giving yourself credit for.

Whatever emerges, remember that personal authority isn’t about always being right. It’s about accepting responsibility for your choices while trusting yourself to navigate the outcomes.

You’ve spent years developing your professional expertise and learning what matters to you. Let that experience count. You don’t need everyone’s agreement to trust what you know about yourself. And that’s a powerful place from which to begin a new season.

Okay, your turn:

What’s one thing you can do today to listen to your instincts and trust your judgment? What does that look like for you?

I invite you to share your observations, feelings, and experiences by leaving a Reply in the Comments section, below. Soul-to-soul!

© 2026 Lori A. Noonan. All Rights Reserved.

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A change of scenery

I’ll be taking a road trip this September, and one of the things I appreciate about getting away is the opportunity to see life from somewhere else for a while. That means taking different roads, seeing new landscapes, and meeting new people. Even something as simple as having morning coffee somewhere unfamiliar can create a subtle shift in perspective.

Of course, you don’t need to pack a bag or leave town to experience a change of scenery. Sometimes, however, what we need is to step outside the familiar long enough to enjoy a new view.

A Different View Can Reveal Something New

As capable, accomplished professionals, we tend to be pretty good at solving problems. When something isn’t working, we think about ways to improve it. We analyze it. We make lists, consider options, and gather information and try to figure out the best way forward. Those skills serve us well. We may reach a point, though, where thinking harder about something from the same vantage point simply produces more of the same thinking. That’s when a change of scenery can help.

It might mean working from a different location for an afternoon. Or, it could mean taking a day trip somewhere you haven’t been in years. Have you thought about having lunch with someone outside your usual professional circle? Or, could you spend a few hours in a museum, a botanical garden, a bookstore or a café without an agenda?

Maybe you look at a career challenge from the perspective of the person you were ten years ago. Would she be surprised by or even proud of how far you’ve come?

Maybe you imagine yourself five years from now looking back at the decision in front of you today. What might seem more important from that vantage point? Or perhaps you question an assumption that has become so familiar you no longer realize you’re making it. Simply put: sometimes clarity begins with a different view.

You Don’t Have to Solve Anything

Here’s the part I especially want us to remember this month: a change of scenery does not need to become another productivity exercise.You don’t have to take yourself to a beautiful location and immediately ask, “Okay, what am I supposed to figure out or solve here?” You are allowed to simply experience something different.

There is value in interrupting our usual patterns. When the familiar cues of everyday life change, even temporarily, our attention changes with them. We notice things. We become curious. We remember ideas we had forgotten. We may find ourselves thinking about an old problem in a new way.

Or perhaps nothing dramatic happens at all. That’s fine, too. The purpose isn’t to force an insight. It’s to create enough room for a new perspective to become possible.

Small Changes Count

September arrives at an interesting point in the year. By the end of September, we’ve moved through the expansiveness of summer, and the final months of 2026 are beginning to come into view.

There can be a temptation at this point to immediately start assessing: What still needs to happen? What goals haven’t been completed? What should I accomplish before the end of the year? Those questions have their place. But before rushing into the final stretch, perhaps we can look around first. What does your life look like from where you are standing today? What does your career look like? What are you seeing differently now than you did at the beginning of the year?

You may discover that something you thought was enormously important in January matters much less now. Something else may have quietly moved from the background to the foreground. A possibility you couldn’t see earlier may now seem obvious.

Perspective changes as we do.

For Your Consideration

As we move into this September New Moon, consider where a small change of scenery might serve you.

Where in your life or career have you been looking at something from the same angle for too long? What could you change about your surroundings, routine or approach that might help you see it differently? Is there someone whose perspective could expand your own?

And perhaps most importantly, where could you give yourself permission to explore without requiring an immediate outcome?

You don’t necessarily need a major change. You may simply need a different view.

Sometime this month, intentionally change your scenery.

Go somewhere different. Work somewhere different. Take a different route. Have a conversation with someone new. Spend an afternoon somewhere that makes you curious. Step outside your regular routine in whatever way feels accessible to you.

And then resist the urge to make the experience productive.

Look around.

Pay attention.

Notice what feels different from this vantage point.

You don’t need to come home with a five-point plan or a major revelation. Maybe you’ll simply return with a little more energy, a new idea, or a question you hadn’t thought to ask before.

That may be more than enough.

Sometimes clarity begins with a different view.

Okay, your turn:

When have you made a deliberate attempt to change your scenery? What did you experience or notice as a result?

I invite you to share your observations, feelings, and experiences by leaving a Reply in the Comments section, below. Soul-to-soul!

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