October brings a noticeable shift in the atmosphere. The days grow shorter, the light changes, and the natural world adjusts to a new season. It’s a fitting time to consider what we see, what we assume, and what we know to be true beneath the surface of our everyday experiences.
Traditionally, October has been associated with the thinning of the veils, a time when what is normally hidden becomes easier to perceive. Whether or not that symbolism resonates with you, there’s a practical interpretation worth exploring: Sometimes we need to look beyond appearances, expectations, and other people’s opinions to recognize what we already know.
And that brings us to something especially valuable at this stage of life and career: personal authority.
You’ve Earned the Right to Trust Yourself
Think about the experience you’ve accumulated over the years. You’ve navigated professional challenges, made difficult decisions, learned from mistakes, and discovered what works for you. You’ve likely developed a fairly sophisticated understanding of people, circumstances, and your own capabilities.
Yet even accomplished professionals sometimes find themselves second-guessing their instincts. We seek additional opinions, reconsider decisions we’ve already made, or feel compelled to explain choices that don’t require anyone else’s approval.
Consulting trusted colleagues and considering different perspectives are signs of sound judgment. But there’s a difference between gathering useful information and continually outsourcing confidence in our own decisions. Personal authority means recognizing that your experience, values, and judgment deserve a meaningful place at the decision-making table. In fact, when it comes to your own life, they deserve the leading role.
Look Beyond What’s Being Presented
One of the advantages of professional maturity is the ability to recognize that what’s visible isn’t always the whole story.
A seemingly attractive opportunity may carry expectations that conflict with your priorities. A colleague’s strong opinion may reflect their own concerns rather than an objective assessment of your situation. A long-standing professional obligation may continue simply because nobody has questioned whether it still makes sense. Seeing beneath the surface means being willing to examine these situations without automatically accepting the prevailing narrative.
It also means paying attention to your own responses. When something feels out of alignment, consider why. Perhaps you’ve noticed a pattern, recognized an inconsistency, or identified a concern that hasn’t yet been fully articulated.
Your instincts aren’t infallible, of course. They’re information, not unquestionable instructions. They do, however, deserve consideration alongside what’s directly observable. The goal isn’t to become suspicious or overly analytical. It’s to become more discerning about what you accept, what you question, and what you choose to do next.
Personal Authority Doesn’t Require a Big Outward Performance
There’s a misconception that standing in your personal authority requires making bold declarations, confronting everyone who disagrees with you, or demonstrating unwavering certainty. Sometimes personal authority looks like calmly declining an opportunity that isn’t right for you. Sometimes it’s choosing not to engage in a conversation that’s going nowhere. Other times, it’s listening respectfully to someone’s advice and deciding to take a different path.
You can be open-minded without being easily influenced. You can be collaborative without abandoning your standards. And you can acknowledge uncertainty without surrendering your ability to make a thoughtful decision.
For high-achieving women, especially those accustomed to being reliable, accommodating, and responsive to others, this can be an important distinction. You don’t need to defend every boundary or provide an elaborate explanation for every personal choice.
Your authority doesn’t depend on how convincingly you explain yourself. It grows through how consistently you honor what you know.
For Your Consideration:
As we move further into the final quarter of 2026, consider where you might benefit from exercising a little more personal authority.
- Notice where you’re seeking unnecessary approval. Is there a decision you’ve already considered carefully but haven’t acted upon because you’re waiting for someone else’s endorsement?
- Question an assumption. Is something in your professional or personal life continuing simply because it’s always been done that way?
- Give your judgment some credit. Recall a time when you trusted yourself and made a decision that served you well. What did that experience teach you?
- Choose one clear action. Identify a situation where you can honor your priorities without overexplaining, apologizing, or inviting unnecessary debate.
These don’t need to be dramatic changes. Often, the most meaningful shifts begin with a quiet decision to trust ourselves a little more.
As October unfolds, I invite you to pay attention to what becomes clearer when you look beneath the surface. Perhaps you’ll recognize that an old expectation no longer fits. Maybe you’ll discover that someone else’s urgency doesn’t need to become your responsibility. Or you might simply realize that you’ve accumulated more wisdom and good judgment than you’ve been giving yourself credit for.
Whatever emerges, remember that personal authority isn’t about always being right. It’s about accepting responsibility for your choices while trusting yourself to navigate the outcomes.
You’ve spent years developing your professional expertise and learning what matters to you. Let that experience count. You don’t need everyone’s agreement to trust what you know about yourself. And that’s a powerful place from which to begin a new season.
Okay, your turn:
What’s one thing you can do today to listen to your instincts and trust your judgment? What does that look like for you?
I invite you to share your observations, feelings, and experiences by leaving a Reply in the Comments section, below. Soul-to-soul!
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